So it feels like a lot of people at the moment are really struggling with feelings of hopelessness and heaviness.
So one of the biggest things I try and teach my clients is about taking responsibility. We have been given this life with one very important aspect – and that is called CHOICE. This is the one thing that governs our existence, that determines how things go and how it flows. So in essence each thought and pattern and feeling is linked to choice. So how do YOU choose to feel? How do YOU choose to think? What do YOU choose to do? How do YOU choose to respond?
As like anyone out there, I also have days where I wake up sad, or mad or just feeling plain rotten and with a feeling of having had enough. I also struggle massively with self-esteem, self-doubt and self-criticism. BUT one thing I have learnt over the last few years of walking this path is that I am the one in control here – not my husband, my child, my parents, my family, my friends, society – JUST PLAIN OLD ME. So no one can make me feel anything, it is just me who makes me feel anything – sad or glad.
So each time these crappy feelings come up – I sit with it, I look at it and I try and figure out where it comes from. I then try and figure out how I can make it better for myself and then I CHOOSE to change the way that I feel about that feeling. I CHOOSE to change my standard response and I CHOOSE to look at it differently. It is very easy to say I don’t know why I am feeling this way, but deep inside we all know. And I know all too well, that feeling of wanting to fix stuff instantly, of wanting it all to just get better – instant gratification. But guys at the end of the day it really all boils down to CHOICE.
I am responsible for this life of mine, again just me – so if I want to make it a good one, I take responsibility for my choices. I choose to not look at the negative, I choose to practice gratitude, I choose to give myself a talking to and a bit of a kick up the arse. I also make sure that I spend lots of time in nature, practicing gratitude daily and do things that makes me happy. I CHOOSE!
And then I always have to laugh at my dear husband’s who’s standard response to anyone feeling crappy is – tell them to buy a bike and go riding…